The Empathy Exams

The Empathy Exams

Empathy comes from the Greek empatheia—em (into) and pathos (feeling)—a penetration, a kind of travel. It suggests you enter another person’s pain as you’d enter another country, through immigration and customs, border crossing by way of query: What grows where you are? What are the laws? What animals graze there?

–Leslie Jamison

I’m reading this fantastic book right now for a book club I’m a part of. Leslie Jamison, Brooklyn-based author, writes about her experience as a medical actor who was paid to act out symptoms for medical students to diagnose. Imagining herself into the pain of others, “playing sick” so that medical students can guess her maladies and be examined. These “empathy exams” reveal so much about how each of us throughout life interprets others’ pain and how we want others to interpret ours’.

I love how rawly Jamison confronts the pain (real and imagined, hers and others’) from inexplicable seizures, to crippled rabbits in love, to the sad “half-life” of arguments, and consequently uncovers this urgency in all of us to feel and be felt with.

Her self-awareness is beautiful (might even be the most moving part of her essays to me), and her intelligence about how people respond to pain and how people respond to other people’s pain gripped me…In the best, most necessary way. 

I would highly recommend!

What are you reading right now? Anything you’d recommend?

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9 Nursing-Friendly Dresses

9 Breastfeeding Friendly Dresses

Back when I was breastfeeding I remember initially thinking dresses were going to be a no-go for awhile. But since they are such a staple in my wardrobe, and I planned on nursing Eleanor for awhile, I didn’t make it very long before I went on a serious hunt to find styles that would easily accommodate the breastfeeding season of motherhood I was in. The top styles I found and liked were: Button-down, wrap style, and deeper v-neck dresses. Continue reading for the links to these beautiful summer nursing-friendly dresses…

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A Local’s Guide To SE Portland: Anna Fickle

Branch Birdie

I brought you the classy Cate Clifford’s SE Portland fave’s last week, and today I’m so thrilled to have the lovely Anna Fickle of Branch Birdie share some of her go-to spots around the bustling southeast portion of Portland…

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Style 02: T-Shirt & Jeans

Style Shoot Ace & Jig

Style shoot Ace & Jig

Like I mentioned in my last style post, if my style has changed in any way since becoming a mother it’s that my wardrobe is simpler and far less fussy. Along with the one-stop pieces like dresses and onesies, I love wearing jeans and a t-shirt. I used to shy away from the combo before I had Eleanor, thinking it was too boring and not the most flattering. But it turns out I couldn’t have been more wrong…

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Friday, Treat Day

Arnold Palmer #2

I have always been a big fan of Arnold Palmers, especially boozy ones. This version is my idea of the perfect summer drink. It puts a bit of a gingery, minty punch in the original Arnold Palmer, and makes for the perfect companion on a balmy summer day…

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Jonesin’ For All The Likes

Mama Style

It has taken me forever to be able to get this down because it’s not the prettiest and it’s easy for me to think some of my personal struggles aren’t beautiful enough for my lifestyle blog. But, lifestyle is- by definition- the way in which one chooses to live their life. And since life is often messy, I also want to write about that and how I process and deal with it. I want to live well and my blog is about inspiring others to do the same. Seems like the messy parts have to be included with the quality wardrobe, beautifully decorated home, and hair-tutorials to accomplish that…

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Current Toddler Essentials

Toddler Essentials

I’ve done a few “essentials” posts in the past, like my Mama Essentials and Pregnancy Essentials. Since we’re currently in a very different phase than being pregnant or brand new mama, I thought I’d share a few things we’ve been using and finding super helpful during these crazy, fun, toddler days…

Continue reading for the links and information about our 8 toddler essentials right now…

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A Local’s Guide To SE Portland: Catherine Harrington Clifford

Catherine Harrington Clifford

I first met Cate at the book club we’re a part of, and was instantly taken by her classy style and killer shoes, and, of course, all of the interesting things she had to say about what we were reading…

Cate currently lives in southeast Portland and is one of the few native Portlanders I know. She is an event and wardrobe stylist and a blogger. She blogs about her events/projects, and she has a wonderful series on her blog called, “Mommy + Me Monday.” This series features either her and her adorable baby girl’s style or other guest mamas and babes (Eleanor and I actually had the privilege of contributing to this series recently!) . I appreciate Cate’s aesthetic and taste, and her appreciation and eye for quality. From killer shoes to drool-worthy cocktails. So, it is with great pleasure that I show you southeast Portland through her very stylish eyes…

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Friday, Treat Day

Watermelon Mojito Popsicles

We have had a no-joke heat wave in Portland the past few weeks and even though it’s supposed to cool down a bit over the weekend I have a feeling we haven’t seen our last 90 degree day quite yet.

Other than an ice cold cocktail, nothing beats the heat quite like a popsicle does in my book. So I did some hunting, and found a popsicle recipe that covers both bases. It involves watermelon and rum and it’s incredibly easy to make!

Since my toddler would be devastated if I left her out of all the popsicle fun,  I found a kid-friendly popsicle recipe too. And let me just say, as much as I love a boozy popsicle, this honey drenched, creamy, healthy (!) popsicle blew. my. mind. We will no doubt be eating it all summer long.

Click below to find the links to both recipes and maybe a few pictures of a cute toddler enjoying said popsicle…

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Preservation 04: Blueberry Lemongrass Syrup

Blueberry Lemongrass Syrup

Lemon and blueberries are a classic flavor pairing, and lemons give blueberries a needed boost of acid. For a new twist, this recipe incorporates lemongrass, which lends the syrup an exotic, gingery flavor…

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