I posted this picture on Instagram a few days ago after a horrible night with my 4 month old. There were a few fellow mama’s who commented, interested to know what I use to hide the bags that I assure you are there lurking under the makeup. One clever commenter is responsible for the title of this post because, it was perfect and because this post is dedicated to her and all the other tired mama’s out there.
Babies, man, they don’t sleep (at least never when they’re supposed to) and it’s R-O-U-G-H. Not only on our minds and souls….but on our bodies and skin too. All I want right now is to look as good as I can without devoting very much time to it. I not only have a 4 month old who doesn’t sleep, but I also have a three-and-a-half-year-old who is raring to go by 6:30am. Sometimes I realize I have gone an hour without actually breathing properly, or it’s noon and I haven’t eaten anything other than my kids half eaten yogurt cup. So everything “beauty” has to deliver the goods, fast. I still want to look good – I mean, hello, I’m not an animal – but the days of doing my eyeliner for 5 minutes are over. So, if you’re a tired mama and the bags are big and dark like mine you might find these products and techniques helpful….
I’m obsessed with Aesop products. Aesop’s objective has always been to formulate skin, hair and body care products of the finest quality. They investigate widely to source plant-based and laboratory-made ingredients, and use only those with a proven record of safety and efficacy. Every product I’ve used of theirs makes my skin feel incredibly soft, rejuvenated, and alive. Everything smells wonderful too. And even though most of the products carry a hefty price tag they last forever so you really don’t have to buy them that often.
I just tried their parsley seed facial cleansing oil and looooove it. It removes makeup and overall grim from the day and leaves my skin feeling so clean and soft. It is made with a bunch of amazing, natural oils too so it’s highly moisturizing and nourishing to your skin.
A few of my other favorite Aesop products: A Rose By Any Other Name Body Cleanser (smells divine and leaves your skin feeling so soft!), and Parsley Seed Cleansing Masque (I don’t know what the deal is with all this parsley seed but it must be magic because I use this masque like twice a week and my skin couldn’t feel more clean and soft after I use it!)
So I don’t know about you but I’ve been missing all the interviews I did before adding kid #2 to the mix. So I thought I’d slowly start bringing them back, just on a smaller scale to start. I’ll be featuring lovely women I admire “over coffee,” if you will, and asking them some fun get-to-know-you questions.
I thought I’d get the ball rolling by being the first in the limelight…
How do you take your coffee (or tea)? I love my husband’s pour over coffee. I’m worthless in the morning so he makes the breakfast and coffee and he makes a mighty fine cup. I also love all the tea from Tea Bar, a lovely little place conveniently located within walking distance from my house. It has become my place. The place where I take my daughter for lavender boba tea treats after school and also the place where I go to treat myself to some alone time and, during the fall season especially, a good London fog.
How do you treat yourself? A tasty beverage, like my previous answer, tea from Tea Bar, or a good cocktail from Expatriate or a new favorite, Victoria bar. A mani-pedi…though I have yet to find the perfect spot. And fresh flowers from my favorite, Hilary Horvath at the beautiful shop Alder & Co.
Top 3-5 favorite spots in your hood?P’s & Q’s Market for fresh, local grocery staples and tomato gravy and biscuits for brunch on the weekend, Woodlawn Coffee and Pastry for coffee when we’re out or I want espresso, and a freshly baked in-house almond croissant, Firehouse restaurant for wood-fired, thin-crust pizza and arancini, and, as mentioned a million times over, Tea Bar.
Flats or heels? Flats.
Early bird or night owl? Night owl. Though less of either these days.
What time do you wake up each morning? Officially? Like 7:30 thanks to my stellar husband.
Favorite book or current book you’re reading?Girl On The Train by Paula Hawkins. It has taken me way too long to get through this book. Not because it’s not good, but because I’m so tired these days and also because it’s kinda scary and I get freaked out and have to take a break. I know, it’s sad.
Currently listening too…? Asgeir, In the Silence.
If you were an emoji which one would you be and why? The sleepy face one. Because…#threenager and 3 month old that wakes me up all night.
What’s the best piece of motherhood advice you’ve received? “The days are long, but the years are short.” It feels like I’m in the thick of it all now–the trenches if you will—and some days go on way too long and you couldn’t get me that glass of wine and my pillow fast enough. But then I remember I almost have a FOUR YEAR OLD already and the reality that they’ll never be as they are today—right now—is unbearable.
What excites you most about motherhood? My favorite thing in the world these days is to watch my 3.5 year old sleep because she looks like a baby again and cuddle and get all the smiles from my 3 month old while we’re still waking up in bed in the morning.
What makes you most nervous about motherhood? All the mistakes I’ve made already and how it is affecting/will affect them later. Not having a close relationship with them when they grow up or them not being close with each other.
What’s one of your best childhood memories? Looking for agates and beach glass with my best friend on the beaches of Whidbey Island, where I grew up.
What won’t we find in your closet? Anything with logos.
What’s your biggest flaw? I have too many to count. The one that springs to mind at the moment is that I’m a perfectionist and kind of a control freak. Though my two babies are slowly working on that for me.
These comics makes sense of my whole life right now and are cathartic in a way I can’t even begin to describe to you. If you are a parent, you can find more of these hilarious, on point comics here. You’re welcome.
I love a good skinny jean, but when the light and airy cropped-leg culottes started trending this past summer I was stoked. The 1940’s “split skirt” style has become such a staple in my everyday attire. I find them so easy to wear! They can easily be paired with most tops and shoes. Not to mention, the wide-leg pant is extremely comfortable, wearable, and I think flattering on most figures. By adding just one pair to my wardrobe, I’ve been able to create a library of looks. From daytime to nighttime, and casual to dressy, I’ve found the culotte to be one of the most versatile pieces around. I couldn’t be happier it’s stuck around for fall too! Below are some links to a few of my favorites I’ve been spotting around the web…
Come beginning of November I’m going to turn 30 (?!?!) and I’ve been brainstorming a good way to say farewell to my twenties and celebrate the start of a new decade. I entertained the idea of someplace warm like Palm Springs, but with a 3.5 year old and 4 month old no one’s gonna be lounging around sipping Mai Tai’s, lets be real. I’ve always, always wanted to see New York City, so when we spotted an awesome deal on plane tickets we jumped on it. We’re so excited! It seems like such a rad city, and I can’t wait to see it…Especially in the fall.
As we put our trip together, I would love to ask you: Do you have any tips for visiting NYC? Places to eat and drink, activities to do? We will be staying at an Airbnb in Prospect Heights, Brooklyn. Thank you SO much for any advice! xx
“The minute-to-minute hardships women go through to carry their babies are never discussed or reported in the media, anywhere. No one ever talks about carrying around that big tummy 24 hours a day. A staggering number of women don’t even survive the experience, and die during childbirth. But we never complain. We just remain thankful that our babies came out looking powerful and sweet at the same time. Every baby is a Revolution.”
When I first saw the new FW15 collection by Electric Feathers I thought to myself, “I need a legit reason to wear that gold lamé dress right now.” But actually, you know what, you should be able to wear gold lamé whenever you like. In fact, why not go full jumpsuit while you’re at it. That rope dress pictured above is also something else. This is all, of course, out of my price range but it’s nice to dream and admire and be inspired…
Speaking of inspiration and clothes, it’s clothes like these that remind me of a goal I’ve been aiming and working toward for the past couple years now: paring down my closet and steering clear of fast-fashion (thankfully my 1923 house has the teensiest closets and doesn’t allow for an exorbitant amount of clothes). This, of course, means no $20 pair of jeans. Everything I look at costs enough that it causes me to seriously hesitate…which is good. It forces me to think about just how much I want that item of clothing, how much I’ll wear it, and whether I think the value it offers is worth a significant cost. It’s been a good challenge that forces me to buy less and waste less, which in turn has positive impacts on the environment and the workers who make these goods.
I also love buying second-hand, vintage, eBay, and from companies like this to get quality goods at a more affordable price.
What about you guys? How do you handle this topic? Where do you shop? Why? I would love to hear your thoughts!
Have any of you ever tried Lillet? It is an aperitif or digestif (an alcoholic beverage served before or after meals). I have been enjoying it so much lately. After a long day of mothering two littles, it is such a lovely treat to look forward to and wind down with. I’ve been enjoying it chilled, on the rocks, with a slice of lime or orange. Really simple, but so delicious. There are also some delicious looking Lillet cocktails I’d love to give a try some time.
What are your favorite night caps these days? I’m on the look out for something simple and warm for the autumn season, as the evenings start cooling down.