As a mother of two girls, this woman and the work she’s doing for women (and men for that matter) means everything to me. I have many worries for my girls as a mother, but one of the biggest is that they will be devalued, excluded, disrespected, denied, made dispensable…because of their gender. Because they are female. More than anything, I want them to grow up in a world where it would never even occur to them to apologize for their femininity. I want them to be respected in all their femaleness, just as men are respected in all their maleness. Because they deserve to be.
And if you are a mother of boys, this video is for you too. I will simply quote her, because she nails it,
“We do a great disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way….We teach boys to be afraid of fear, of weakness, of vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves, because they have to be, in Nigerian-speak–a hard man…But by far the worst thing we do to males–by making them feel they have to be hard–is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males…We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller.”
Yeah, watch it. And, lets all buy each other her book for Christmas. Probably the best $6 we’ll spend this Christmas.